Choose Reconciliation over Grudges

It’s sad to say, but most of us have been deeply wronged or hurt at some point in our lives. In some cases, we’ve been victims of others’ mistakes. In other cases, we’re victims of bad behavior or deeds by another. Or, and perhaps most commonly, we’ve been involved in relationships that dissolved or have been severely damaged.
 
Regardless of the source, our emotions can include anger, resentment, shame, guilt, pain, fear, and depression.
 
In one of my all-time favorite movies, Field of Dreams, Ray Kinsella had a detached and dysfunctional relationship with his father, now deceased. The crux of this imaginative story was a “second chance” opportunity for Ray to reconcile with his dad and release the pain he had buried inside for many years. It’s an extremely powerful movie that challenges us to reconcile while we can, if we can.
 
When people harbor grudges, it’s like an all-consuming cancer. It embitters us and gnaws at our insides. And, it affects our relationships and ability to trust others.
 
Conversely, there are remarkable stories about people who overcome tragic abuses, losses, and injustices and who go on to live amazing lives of joy and impact. Do you ever wonder how they recover and flourish while others in similar situations are consumed by bitterness and self-pity? What makes the difference? It’s the freedom of forgiveness.
 
Is there someone in your life who has caused pain that continues to gnaw at you? If so, consider your options to reconcile or seek help. Then do it—the sooner, the better. The resulting freedom will lift your spirits and improve your outlook on life!
 
How has the freedom of forgiveness changed your life? We invite you to share your comments, thoughts, and insights with our online community of parents and educators. We enjoy hearing from you! Consider sharing us with a friend!

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